it is kind of fucked up that speaking up about rape, consent, sexual assault gets you labeled as a feminist. it's not a "feminist" issue. It's something that feminists have to address and advocate about because it's linked to misogyny, inequality and is has a cost that is disproportionately borne by women. But it's a… » 8/29/14 3:47pm Friday 3:47pm

The only reason you would have to worry about this is if you actually raped someone. If you are so unaware of your partners ability and willingness to consent, that's something you should worry about. The fact that you think laws should be crafted to protect someone who doesn't know whether sex was actually consensual… » 8/29/14 12:56pm Friday 12:56pm

I'm really curious as to why you felt the need to comment on this story. Just breathless with curiosity, beside myself with curiosity as to what possible value you think you contributed. I want to know exactly the kind of life experiences you've had that speaks to this incident. do tell, chuck » 8/28/14 1:13pm Thursday 1:13pm

NPR did a report on this. The prisoners in Rikers should all be housed in facilities for the mentally ill. None of them are well, none of them should be in a prison with no access to mental health resources or be cared for/guarded by people who have no experience with the mentally ill. » 8/26/14 3:21pm Tuesday 3:21pm

so i was having drinks with a group of people which included a man in Homeland Security. He mentioned that he was giving a job-related presentation in South Dakota. And I said, oh where all the crazy militia men are and he said, oh no they are not crazy, they are protecting our Constitution. » 8/26/14 12:36pm 8/26/14 12:36pm

it's actually exactly like the abusive boyfriend. No one says join our religion, we'll treat you like shit. They say, you have a place of value, you're special, if you behave properly you will be loved and cared for. And then the stakes get raised, so incrementally you don't realiZe how fucked up it is until it's… » 8/23/14 8:43am 8/23/14 8:43am

it'll happen organically. One day you will just be done. The thing is, in order to maintain a pleasant relationship with people whose thought processes are abhorrent, you have to consciously be entertaining. You have to make an effort to add to the evening, but then one day you will realize it's just not worth the… » 8/22/14 7:09pm 8/22/14 7:09pm