I always wonder what the thought processes of these people look like. It's so curious to me. Like, is it unconscious, or conscious. I had lunch with a friend and bet myself that when I brought up some issues about my job she would not respond. And she did not. She's not a narcissist, she just didn't want to be drawn… » 3/24/15 7:12pm Tuesday 7:12pm

This makes me so sad. You sound so emotionally exhausted. And why wouldn't you be? Your boyfriend's expectation that you care-take all of his needs, 24/7, is mind-boggling. How did he get to this point? Why does he off-load the entire responsibility for his needs, his confidence, his security on to you? I feel for you… » 3/23/15 4:58pm Monday 4:58pm

I read the column and she's a fucking asshole. She posted two commenter replies to this letter (both far better responses than hers) and she still insists that the husband has a right to express his unchallenged views on her lived experience and actual factual knowledge of racism and race. Like, scientists should… » 3/16/15 7:16pm 3/16/15 7:16pm

I can validate every feeling you have. Job searching is probably one of the most stressful things because it takes such a profound toll on you emotionally. after a couple of failed interviews you do feel defective, unlikable, unskilled. Its really awful. there's a reason why recruiters advise job seekers not to take… » 3/16/15 12:47pm 3/16/15 12:47pm